Who do you think you are? Do you feel like the same person every day, moment to moment? Or do aspects of yourself shift with each circumstance and interaction?
Some of the leaders I support spike high on consistency. But even the steadiest may fall into a less resourceful version of themselves when stuck in traffic.
Like other human traits, our ability to access different parts of ourselves exists on a spectrum. The most successful leaders I've worked with move fluidly between aspects of themselves, flexing authentically to meet each situation without sacrificing their core.
It isn't only artists who inhabit multitudes. After a decade witnessing the inner lives of my clients, I know this truth: Every human being contains a cast of characters.
"There is no single 'you' that exists. Instead, you are made up of competing neural networks that are constantly fighting it out for control of your behavior."
~ Donald Hoffman
We are all creators. Yet most of us aren't creating consciously.
Instead, we play roles by default, driven by scripts we didn't author. When we explore the archeology of our operating systems, we unearth legacy code written by familial, ancestral, and cultural survival programs.
Decoding and rewriting these systems is an exhilarating process, one that shatters old beliefs about what life is supposed to look like and what we're authorized to imagine for ourselves. This journey benefits from a trusted guide, but the destination is clear: conscious authorship of our experience.
How do we work with this multiplicity? Drawing from my years as a performer, I found a powerful approach in the art of character creation.
Actors must learn to create emotional truth within fiction. In my training as a actor, I discovered that emotion lives at the intersection of mind and body. Our internal narratives (our beliefs and context) generate physical responses, like butterflies before a high-stakes presentation. Conversely, physical sensations can trigger thoughts, as when those same butterflies might convince you you're falling in love.
Lisa Feldman Barrett's research confirms what performers intuitively understand: emotions aren't simply reactions but constructions born from the dialogue between mind and body. As she notes, "Human beings are not at the mercy of emotion circuits—we are architects of our own experience."
This architecture requires tools that work directly with our inner ensemble. Internal Family Systems (IFS) offers precisely this blueprint for conscious creation.
IFS recognizes our minds contain multiple "parts" or sub-personalities, each with different needs, fears, and beliefs. Originally used in trauma therapy, this approach identifies how parts emerged as protective strategies that, while once life-saving, can eventually constrain us. As IFS creator Richard Schwartz notes, "What most often blocks Self is the belief that our parts are who we are."
A paradox my clients face: the very traits that drove their success now limit their next level of impact. Yet beneath these parts lies what Schwartz calls "the Self, our seat of consciousness; curious, calm, compassionate, and clear."
When I integrate the embodied awareness of character creation with the psychological depth of IFS, leaders experience breakthroughs in three key dimensions::
A brilliant CIO I worked with couldn't contribute in leadership meetings because her "Imposter" part insisted she didn't belong. When supported to reassure that part, her natural genius flowed freely. The response was immediate.
Some may question whether we truly contain such multiplicity. Yet even my most pragmatic clients discover their recurring challenges stem from competing internal voices that, once recognized, become instruments in their ensemble rather than unconscious limitations.
Satisfaction doesn’t always follow success. We work harder, achieve more, yet often feel diminishing returns in fulfillment.
This satisfaction gap stems from our modern tendency to operate primarily from intellect. Our institutions consistently reward thinking over sensing, disconnecting us from our bodies, the very vehicles through which we experience pleasure and fulfillment.
Embodiment, the practice of returning awareness to physical sensation, offers a direct pathway back to enjoyment. This ability to inhabit our physical experience opens the gateway not just to effectiveness, but to actually enjoying the wealth and success we've created.
When feeling stuck in an old script or unconscious role:
"You have to get to a point where you're the actor and the witness simultaneously."
~ Ram Dass
For many of the high-achievers I support, reconnecting with their bodies is revolutionary. Initially, I get blank stares when asking what they physically feel or inviting them to breathe from their diaphragm. These exceptional minds have navigated complex external worlds while remaining strangers to their own inner landscape.
But something remarkable happens as they begin to see their bodies not as something they possess, but as the ground of who they are. Their inner voices, once competing for dominance, begin to harmonize. Old programming gives way to conscious creation.
When this integration happens, success transforms. No longer just metrics and milestones, it becomes a genuine expression flowing from their complete selves, bringing an integrated fulfillment that is more than the sum of their parts.